E3 Emotional Intelligence Explained: How to Recognize, Understand, and Use Your Emotions to Be a More Effective Human

Host: Christopher L. Camp, M.D.

Guest: Mary Ann Djonne, M.Ed.

Most of us have heard the term “Emotional Intelligence,” and we understand that it’s generally important to our happiness and interpersonal relationships. However, most of us aren’t able to define it precisely or understand the key components that make it up. While many may think they do a good job of evaluating the emotional intelligence of others, it can be quite difficult to objectively evaluate our own levels of emotional intelligence. Once we better understand our own emotional intelligence, then comes the very challenging task of trying to improve it in a meaningful way. All of this can seem quite daunting, so we are going to help with that.

The three big questions we will tackle in this episode are:
1) What exactly is “Emotional Intelligence”?
2) What are the benefits and why should I make it a priority to improve my Emotional Intelligence?
3) What are the actual steps I can take to maximize my own Emotional Intelligence?

To help us answer these questions, my guest today is Mary Ann Djonne, Professional Certified Executive Coach and Senior Advisor in Work Force Learning at Mayo Clinic.

 

How to start a Mayo Clinic Human Optimization Project “Pod-Club”:
Step 1: Find 2-30 friends who want to get better
Step 2: Choose your episodes (can be focused on specific themes or random)
Step 3: Listen to/watch the episodes
Step 4: Meet with your group to work through the provided discussion questions for each episode, and feel free to add your own!
Step 5: Celebrate the fact that you are turning passive knowledge into action!

 

Discussion Questions for this Episode:

1. Mary Ann Djonne defines emotional intelligence as "personal and social competence," broken down into self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and social management. Which of these four components do you feel is your strongest? Which one presents the biggest opportunity for your personal growth?
2. The podcast clarifies that emotional intelligence is not about always being "nice" or suppressing emotions but rather managing them effectively. Can you recall a situation where you might have misunderstood this, and how might a different approach, informed by EI, have changed the outcome?
3. Dr. Camp and Mary Ann discuss IQ as a "threshold competence" and EQ as a "force multiplier." How has your own experience, or observations of others, illustrated this idea that emotional intelligence can significantly amplify one's abilities and impact?
4. Signs of low emotional intelligence include reactivity, strained relationships, and misinterpreting situations. The challenge at the end of the episode asks listeners to identify their top five triggers. What do you anticipate learning about yourself by completing this exercise, especially if you share it with a trusted loved one?
5. The "ABCs of emotion" (Activating Event, Beliefs, Consequences) and the concept of being an "emotional scientist" are presented as tools for self-awareness and self-management. How might applying these tools help you pause and question your self-talk before reacting impulsively in a challenging situation?
6. For social awareness and management, the podcast suggests assuming benign intent, asking questions, and paraphrasing. Which of these practices do you find most challenging to implement in your interactions, and how might practicing it improve your relationships?
7. The discussion links emotional intelligence to moving from "running from burnout" to "running towards thriving and joy." How do you see improving your emotional intelligence contributing to your overall well-being and sense of thriving, both professionally and personally?
8. Mary Ann emphasizes that emotional intelligence can be measured and improved, but it requires "practice and intention." What's one specific, intentional practice you could commit to this week to begin or continue improving your emotional intelligence? 

 

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